I feel like a lot has changed since I became a mom. Is that an understatement? Well, it has. In all areas of life but whats particularly on my heart tonight is my friendships. I love people, I love relationships and I’ve always been that way, it’s how God made me. I’m a people person, someone who’s friends with everyone, a “floater” I might have used to say. I’ve always been the one to flutter around different groups of people and I have to admit sometimes I have a serious case of FOMO [fear of missing out]. What I now know, is life before kids looks different than it does now. Wait, did I already say that? What I’m getting at is, time with friends is a precious luxury. I’ve found myself saying this week to at least a few different friends “we’ve GOT to have time just the two of us! without the kids!”. But why is it so hard? Talking while chasing down toddlers or making sure they don’t drown isn’t my idea of great conversation. It’s important to get away, get time alone with good friends. [and alone time with your man, and alone time just you….]
[a picture of Asher just because…Happy Friday!]
I keep hearing myself say, “since having kids, my friendships are different”. and they are! they are richer! fuller! and I have been able to really invest in the people that I’m walking this life with in this season. No, I can’t go to every coffee date and I
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This week I had coffee with my girl Jenna. It was way overdue. We sat outside Starbucks for close to three hours. 3 hours people! It reminded me of how thankful I am for friendships that are real. ones that are sometimes messy. friends that you can bare your sole to. share your junk with. celebrate with. change and grow with. friends that know everything about you and love you anyway.
I love this season we are in. It’s simple, it’s low key, it’s spending time at home more, it’s investing in the beautiful lives God has laid before me. it’s not feeling guilty or not feeling sad that I can’t be all and do all like I used to. it’s knowing that those seasons will come again, but for now…I’ll take the long coffee dates when I can get em.
what about you? how do you balance your time as a wife/mom/career gal?