dichotomy – a division or contrast between two things that are or are represented as being opposed or entirely different.
there’s this amazing new establishment in my hometown’s downtown, called dichotomy. they serve both coffee & spirits. a coffee shop and a bar. and it’s amazing. the energy in that place is incredible. last fall, I spent a late Friday night there with my bestie Brynn sipping on hot chocolate [dreaming about moscow mules] and it got me thinking.
why do we feel like we have to fit in some sort of “category”?
why do I have to chose between a vanilla latte or a glass of red wine?
why can’t I love both? [I do, by the way]
I feel like so much of life we feel like we have to chose between two polar opposite things, like in the game me + my college girlfriends have played for a decade. it’s called “this or that” and you name two things, say beach or mountains, and you have to chose or die as we so politely say. it’s a fun game to pass the time, to get to know new people, and maybe back in the day was a fun drinking game [don’t tell my mom]. it’s harmless, obviously, but got me thinking – why do we have to pick?
why can’t I be a beach girl who absolutely swoons over the sight of a 13,000 ft mountain in Lake City, Colorado? why can’t I absolutely LOVE being in a big diverse city one day, and the next minute be so at home on the front porch swing at a farm house?
our identity isn’t in choosing.
we are complex people, and that’s the beauty of it!
none of us are the same. and we aren’t always the same.
we change, and grow, and develop new loves and passions as time goes on.
and for that I’m thankful.
I’ll be a big city girl one day, and a small town girl the next…..
what about you?
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Hey, I'm Wynne!
Hi, friend! First, I truly am so giddy that you are here. I want you to know I believe in you and all the ways you are growing towards living a more intentional life. I genuinely hope you are encouraged from our time together here.
A little about me, I’m a type 7 on the enneagram, a total extrovert + people lover, entrepreneur, connector, storyteller, people gatherer, and passionate wife, mama + friend. I feel most alive when I’m exploring new places and surrounded by people I love. Give me a day in the outdoors disconnected from wifi, and I am a happy girl. I run on oat milk lattes, Jesus, gratitude journaling and kitchen dance parties with my four kids.
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I LOVE this post! I completely agree. Why is it that we assume we need to be this one type of person and that if we don’t fit in that box it’s not okay? The older I get the more I’m discovering different passions and interests for things that I never expected to because they’re so different from each other. I love the example you used because just last summer my brother took a trip with my dad to the mountains and I had no interest. But for the last 5 months I’ve been daydreaming about escaping to the mountains. I love how intimately and creatively the Lord continues to mold us as time goes on.
AH! So good for my heart to hear! I joke that I dream in six different directions, and most of the time none of them seem to line up. Why can’t I pursue theatre and directing while still being part of a church plant? Why can’t I be dedicated to my grad school work while still pouring into others online and back at home? The truth is “can’t” doesn’t belong in those sentences. I CAN chase after what God has in my heart, even if it is different than someone else or supposedly contradicting its neighbor dream.
Yes! I love so many things that are polar opposites. Also I just can’t get over how much I am loving hearing your sweet voice every day. You’ve got to do these posts on a semi regular basis after your 31 days are up.