on being vulnerable.


ok, so maybe technically I’ve already written about this here.

but I found this note in my phone, based on a talk I had just heard by Rebekah Lyons at Love Does last year.

and I just keep thinking, it’s the truth.

I was feeling pretty down recently, and my friend Candance sent me a text saying something like this,

“I’m not a writer like you but I crave being vulnerable with people in my life. I feel like God is growing our influence here with our church! Your story and blog encourage me so much. I’m also so thankful I can encourage my husband to be the same. He just talked on Thursday to our core group about wanting to be a vulnerable leader so that the people at our church can feel free to be the same. That’s your influence girl.”

I don’t tell you that to toot my own horn.  I’m just saying!  if you want your people to be VUNERABLE, YOU START IT!!!!

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I’m doing this “fit for fall” challenge, and before we started we had to post pictures of ourselves pre-challenge.  ummm scary.  but once someone was vulnerable and brave to post, everyone did.  it was safe then.

I’m on a group text with all my best college gals, and one of our friends is always the first to open up and be so real about how hard motherhood is.  my favorite is when she sent us a video of her messy house.  you better believe the texts rolled in by the hundreds for three days solid after that.

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this summer, while in Rwanda for #StyleForJustice, we got to sit around a room with IJM clients moms and share our stories.  share a burden and a blessing.  I’ll never forget the words spoken to me by my friend Jennie afterwards – she told me that after I opened up so vulnerably with the women, they opened up!  they felt safe, they felt like they could also share the deepest hurts in their story.  that was a moment I’ll never forget [and I'm sure will share more about later]. ** posted a little about this over on the carry camp blog today**

my point…

be vulnerable.

let people into your junk.

be real.

build it and they will come.

have you seen this kind of vulnerability take shape once someone starts?

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the carry camp.

the voice memo says it all.

y’all, I can’t believe this day is here.

a dream.  a vision.  a prayer.  a calling.  a ministry.  a community.  a place to gather.

the carry camp is finally here!


if you or someone you know is walking the road of infertility – please send them to our new community.

The Carry Camp is all about loving and empowering women who might feel broken, left out, and even useless in their struggle with infertility. It’s about encouraging each other to walk in the light and the truth of who we really are: beautifully created in the image of a God who loves us and wants to use us and our stories for His glory. We’re about making His story our story and finding purpose from our pain. It’s about extracting the precious from the worthless and sharing it with the world.

We seek to equip women right where they are and provide a place of refuge that brings peace and restoration. Yes, we have all shared in the cup of suffering but seek to live fully + bravely in our true identity: beautiful daughters of the King. This community is not just for us, but for you kindred one.


come by and say hi?

eternally grateful.

Caroline - Ha, I feel stupid. Ignore my last email! Excited for you ladies!!!

Lauren Casper - <3 <3 <3

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traveling // seeing new places // meeting new people // connecting with people who have a passion for something  //  hearing peoples stories // date night // one on one coffee with a good friend // being outdoors // seeing my kids laugh  // being on the water // getting to reflect // jamming out in the car

these are all things that make me COME ALIVE!

my word[s] for this year, is living alive.  I wrote on January 15th….I want to live alive this year.  I want to be completely and utterly exhausted at the end of the year.  Not in a way that I didin’t take care of myself, or didn’t make time for rest: because I want that too.  What I mean is I want to LIVE ALIVE.  I want to take risks, I want to go “all in”, I want to DO things even when I’m tired and would rather lay on the couch and watch TV.   I want to take the chance.  I want to dream my big dreams out loud and think deep thoughts.  I want to go to the places that make me feel ALIVE, and FREE and allow me to think and dream.  I want to live brave.  2014 is not the year for excuses, but for living alive.

wynneso these things, these things make me feel alive.  and push me to LIVE alive.


what about you?  how do YOU live alive?  what makes you free?

sb - I love this and I love that “living alive” looks different for everyone. I’m finding my “alive” this year, too!

Caroline - Love your list! I LOVE traveling :) Makes me feel alive!

Lauren - traveling and experiencing new things; community with people; actually doing things that will have some small impact in the world.

Andrea Worley - i love this list. i love that you do these voice memos.. such a cool idea and so inspiring to hear your thoughts even if you do think they are just ramblings. thanks for being brave and sharing them with us!

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behind every blog


I love this quote from a documentary I’m proud of have been a part of, American Blogger.


sometimes there are just words you have to record, and you pick up whatever writing device is near to put it down.

behind every blog is a blogger.  

I watched my friend Chris get slammed with criticism for this film.  I watched people I respect tweet horribly offensive words about people I love.  It’s so easy to judge.  to point fingers.

and when I take a step back, I know I do it too.

but this quote, these simple words strung together reminds me that behind every blog is a blogger.

the words you read, the pictures you gaze at, the influence that is spread across this crazy internet world – it’s real.  the people behind the art are real live people.

and that reminds me, when I want to criticize, or on the opposite end – envy, these are people just like you and me.  real people with real emotions, real flaws, real families, and real hearts.

lets not hate, but love.  lets pray that the sweet Lord allows us to see people as He sees them, as His beloved children.


does this give you a new perspective?

Caroline - So true Wynne! It’s so easy just to read blogs and not realize how much emotion is in a post – that there is a real person behind every blog! I often think this about scripture too – it’s so easy to just read through it – forgetting that those are real people and it’s God breathed!

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not forgotten.

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diving in today quite literally in my journal.  most of the time I handwrite a prayer journal, but sometimes it’s coming too fast to hand write, and I type it.  this is a screen shot.  lots of typos, bad grammar, but it’s not meant to be perfect.  these are just honest words to my daddy God.


praying for you sweet sister.  you that feels, so often as I do, that God has forgotten you.

I pray you know He has not!

I pray He will breathe LIFE into your dry bones.

I pray He will meet you at your deepest point of need.

I pray the Spirit will envelop you and wrap you so tight you FEEL His arms around you.

you are NOT alone,  you are NOT forgotten, you are HIS daughter.

his beloved.

rest in Psalm 139:17-18 

 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
If I would count them, they are more than the sand.
    I awake, and I am still with you.


Tiffany Cadenhead - Thank you, thank you, thank you. Believing God heals, redeems and restores all things!

Joni - This is just so beautiful!

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